Thursday, May 10, 2012
Things don’t always go according to plan. Sometimes, things go so far off course you wonder how the heck it ever got so bad. Even with all your planning and preparation, everything is just Fubar. So what do you do with that sort of disappointment? How do you handle it? I mean, it’s not like you missed the opening three minutes to a movie, or missed out on the opening pitch of a ball game. Sure, those things can be a disappointment too, but when the weight of being disappointed gets really heavy, when it turns into a load you feel you are forced to carry, there’s got to be something you can do, right? If you don’t change your perspective on it, that disappointment can become regret, and regret is a far worse burden to bear.
At every stage of a person’s life, they must deal with disappointment. This was very evident to me yesterday thanks to my daughter. She had plans to play with a friend after school on Thursday; she was excited and looking forward to it all week, then at the last minute, plans changed because of unforeseen circumstances and the play time had to be altered. She was crestfallen. For a kid, play time is serious business and when it gets disrupted, watch out! I was sad for her, but we played ball together and I tried to show her that even though she was disappointed, directing her energy and focus somewhere else was healthy. For an eight year old, that’s not the easiest thing to do. But it’s never too early to learn how to cope. It’s never too early to try new techniques and develop skills to redirect that negative energy of disappointment into something positive.
I’ll admit, I have wasted a lot of time being disappointed and feeling sad for myself. It’s natural and we all do it. I think allowing yourself just a little bit of time for feeling sad and downtrodden is alright. I mean we can’t just ignore all the negative and pretend it doesn’t affect us. But after a certain point, we have to let go of that sadness and disappointment or it festers. Allowing one negative thought after another to distract us lays a foundation of negativity that only feeds on you and grows stronger. If you find yourself mired in negative thoughts, chase each one with a positive one; one you know to be a fact. Remind yourself of that fact and then let the negativity go. Carrying that baggage around with you only slows you down and you don’t want that. All that time and energy you dump into feeling sorry for yourself and feeding that negative energy is time you could be challenging yourself to improve and carry out your mission.
You don’t have to be successful in quelling your inner demons on the first try. In fact, it may take you several if not hundreds of tries to defeat those negative thoughts. Disappointment happens, but it doesn’t have to dominate your mind frame. Continue to try, and always go back to trying, no matter how many times you fail. Redirecting your energies into the positive will become a habit. Once you’re habitually thinking positively, you might find things to be brighter than you once believed.
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