Excuses are the worst. We all make them, even if they are
just little ones. But excuses rob us of progress. The worst thing about making
excuses is that sometimes, often times we’re not even aware that what we are
saying really are excuses. They may seem like practical thought-out reasons
something cannot be accomplished; they may seem like a logical progression
derived from the facts at hand. They may just seem comfortable and reasonable.
You’ve probably heard or said something similar: “I can’t afford it,” “I don’t
have enough time,” “there isn’t anyone to help me,” “I don’t know enough about
it,” “I don’t want to do it alone,” “It sounds too complicated,” “It’s all
their fault,” “I’m not to blame.”
At the heart of them all they are just jabs of negativity
robbing us of our goals, sabotaging our successes and fueling our discontent.
The trouble is, we get so used to saying and hearing these sorts of things,
they become second nature, comfortable, even reliable. Getting stuck in an
excuse pattern is dangerous, because that cycle of negativity feeds on itself
and before you know it, your entire way of thinking is adversely affected to
the point where you can’t even see the positive thing you once dreamed of
I’ve made excuses; I’ve even believed them and convinced
myself I was right. For years I thought I couldn’t learn to play the Saxophone,
because I didn’t have time for lessons, there was no time in my day, I didn’t
have an instrument. Notice the negativity there? Well, I slowly saved up enough money and bought a sax, then
devoted just 10 minutes a day to practicing and within a few months I could do
I also made excuses about writing. For a long time I kept telling myself I
had no time. I kept procrastinating and putting it off. I’d tell myself that in
some far off distance future ‘when I had the time’ I would write. I’d say
things like “When I graduate I’ll start writing,” “When I go on vacation I’ll
write,” “I’ll do it on the weekend.” I convinced myself that writing existed in
some vague ethereal plan of ‘the future.’ Of course that was folly. I lied to
myself to cover up the truth. And the truth was that I didn’t have any
discipline to write ‘now.’ I still dreamed about it and sporadically put pen to paper, but had no consistency. I’ve recounted this next part of the story before but it
bears repeating. I had a discussion with my brother, who said “Maybe you’re not
really a writer. Maybe you should just give up on it, because you don’t seem to
care about it enough to actually write.” You see that was like a punch in the
face. Me; not a writer? Who the hell was he to say that? I’ll tell you. At that
point he was the person who saw through the excuses.
That discussion changed my perspective and a year later, I
have the first draft of a novel completed! Once we strip away the layers of
excuses and the comfort they bring we are exposed to the truth. If you really
want something, you CAN make it happen. You just have to believe in yourself
and your abilities. I’m not saying everything is possible, but if you really
try you can reach your goals. The positive state of mind can reinforce your
resolve just as much as the negative state of mind can erode it.
positive perspective. It can start as easily as changing the way you speak.
Speak in positive terms like: “I can do x,” as opposed to “I can’t do x.” I’ve
been reminded of this technique recently and I’m amazed at just how negative
some of my thinking has been. Find help, ask a friend and really start
critiquing how you think, speak, and perceive the world. Expose the excuses and
clear the road for positivity.
"Anything unattempted remains impossible" Thanks for reading. Questions and Comments are welcome.