- William Feather (read about him here)
Disappointment can be a hard thing to deal with, especially if you’ve
worked really hard at something. Putting
forth real effort to reach your goal, to drive toward your mission is always a
great achievement, but there’s something so deflating when you don’t reach your
goal due to no fault of your own.
Sometimes, things or people get in your way and you fail, not because
you didn’t try, but because your efforts were thwarted by circumstances, or by
other people. Unfortunately, you may
encounter people in your life who actually try to sabotage your endeavors. Sometimes they do this because they are
ignorant of your aims and inadvertently get in the way. Sometimes, they are deliberately vindictive
or jealous, and actively attempt to ruin your work. Yes, there is that type of ugliness in the
world and I’m sure you have experienced it.
I myself have been the target of nefarious individuals at one time or
another in my life. And let me tell you
it is not pleasant.
It would be one thing to fail because you gave up, or because you
simply weren’t good enough, but when another individual deliberately stands in
your way and tries to make you fail, it’s a despicable thing. So how do you handle that? What do you do? It would be a cope out to say ‘just live with
it’ and it would also be dismissive to say ‘just think positively.’ Those cliché type pieces of advice don’t
really help at all. If you really do
have someone that is deliberately trying to sabotage your goals, the best thing
to do is eliminate them from your life.
Cut them out completely and do not let them back in. I knew someone that took every opportunity to
try and degrade me, insult me, slander my name and deliberately lie about me to
try and influence people to dislike me.
I know the quality of my character and anyone worth knowing would take
the time to get to know me as a person, not just the lies of a malcontent
trying to break someone down instead of building themselves up. As soon as I cut off all contact with that
person and redirected my life on a new course, guess what! My life became so much more enjoyable,
meaningful, and most of all, positive.
You DO NOT have to allow negative, self-interested and destructive
people into your life. If you have found
someone like that has crept in, evict them.
You are the one that has to live your life and the world will make it
difficult just by its nature. Don’t
assist the forces of despair and negativity.
Situate yourself so positive, uplifting people can assist you in your
goals, and help drive you toward your mission.
That way, when disappointment does strike, it will have much less power
than it would otherwise. Positivity is
great, but structuring your life to accentuate the positiveness of the people
around you is even better. Go ahead, set
yourself up for success!
